Empowering Day

Long time no update

It’s been a while since I updated this blog. I’ve been busy with another site that focuses on sharing information about how to make money on the Internet. Been learning quite a fair bit these few weeks and I hope that what I learned can be put into good use.

Meanwhile, there are some challenges that I face in my Internet Marketing journey. The great thing about them are they let me learn and allows me to stay focused, very focused. Strategies were implemented, and changed. In fact, they are continuously changing.

I know I will see results soon…

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Change – When does it happen?

Just returned from my two weeks National Service In Camp Training. Boy, I had a wonderful time with my camp mates. Caught up with them some already changed their career some had an extra child in the home and some changed their cars and homes. Good progress for everyone.

A lot of changes have occurred from the last time we met. In fact, over the course of these two weeks, I also observed changes in the company that I am working (although I am not there) and changes in my own home. Things happened, and did not happen. Whatever the case, I believe that changes occur for their own reasons.

Nevertheless, I have watched a movie over the weekend and picked up this line – When does change happen? It happens the moment you decide.

Yes, many of us knows that changes are needed in our lives. Some wants to change to lead a better life. Some wants to change to a better environment. Some just wants to stop smoking and some may want to change their boss (ha ha, just kidding).

Regardless of what you want to change, it stems from a decision made by you. No one else can make you change except yourself. And a decision is not a thought. It is an act, and this act will transform not only you but it will also transform changes around you.

So for those who have always thought of changing themselves or someone for a better tomorrow, stop thinking about it. Decide today and change!

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A bus journey

I was taking a bus yesterday and saw a mother and her son. They were seated and the son was holding on to a workbook and looked like he was doing his homework.

“On a bus?” I thought.

Then I heard his mom start to scold his son for not understanding his mathematics homework and making mistakes.

Some of the words I heard her use were:

You are so careless
It is so easy
I can see whether you are trying or just doing blindly
This is so simple
You are taking so long
Stupid

I felt really uneasy when I heard all this and honestly, I pitied the boy, who looked the age of ten to eleven. He merely continued staring at his homework with a blank look on his face.

At this time, some of the other passengers on the bus began to look at them as the mother’s voice were pretty audible. Still, she continued.

I alighted when the bus reached my stop.

But my mind continued to ponder on her words.

I am not condemning her teaching her son but I am puzzled at why she had to use such disempowering words. To me, it may not help his learning at all. And I personally think that we should use more encouraging words to help the young ones learn instead. Nevertheless, I am in no position to comment on her actions.

My mind also brought me back to a local movie I watched entitled “I Not Stupid”.

I recalled that the movie mentioned that as parents, we give our children all the praises we can give when they are young. When they took their first steps, when they said their first words, we were always there to offer praises. “Well Done!” we said. “Good Job!”

But as our children grow older, such praises slowly turned into scoldings. We reprimand them for not paying attention, we punish them for not doing their job well, we no longer praise them, even if they did something that deserves our recognition.

I could not agree more. Because this was exactly what I saw on the bus.

And I questioned myself if I would be like this when it’s my turn to parent my growing daughter at a later stage. And I pondered and pondered.

I can only say I hope not.

I will do my best to empower her journey to be a positive one. To learn that life can be hopeful and academic study is merely one of the ways to move to the next stage of life.

Because to me, life is not all academic. There are many important things to learn and have fun with. There are many things to appreciate in life, while we have the chance.

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Choose the way you live

My daughter has had Hand-Foot-Mouth-Disease (HFMD) for the last two weeks and I had to spend time to look after her. Good thing is she has finally recovered and is back to school this week. Hence, I am also back to work.

I would like to share this story that I have received from a friend. There is no title to the story so I will just call it

The Story

Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room.

One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs.

His bed was next to the room’s only window.

The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.
The men talked for hours on end.

They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their involvement in the military service, where they had been on vacation.

Every afternoon, when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.

The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods where his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside.

The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake.

Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats.Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fineview of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.

As the man by the window described all this in exquisite details, the man onthe other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine this picturesque scene.

One warm afternoon, the man by the window described a parade passing by.

Although the other man could not hear the band – he could see it in his mind’s eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words.

Days, weeks and months passed.

One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep.

She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away.

As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window. The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.

Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside.
He strained to slowly turn to look out the window besides the bed.

It faced a blank wall.

The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate who had described such wonderful things outside this window.

The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall.

She said, ‘Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.’

Epilogue:

There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations.

Shared grief is half the sorrow, but happiness when shared, is doubled.

If you want to feel rich, just count all the things you have that money can’t buy.

‘Today is a gift, that is why it is called The Present.’

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The boy and the starfish

One day a man was walking along the beach when he noticed a figure in the distance. As he got closer, he realised the figure was that of a boy picking something up and gently throwing it into the ocean.

Approaching the boy, he asked, “What are you doing?”

The youth replied, “Throwing a starfish into the ocean. The sun is up and the tide is going out. If I don’t throw them back, they’ll die.”

“Son” the man said, “don’t you realise there are miles of beach and hundreds of starfish? You can’t possibly make a difference?

After listening politely, the boy bent down, picked up another starfish, and threw it into the surf.

Then, smiling at the man, he said, “I make a difference for that one.”

”We Make A Difference If We Choose!”

Adapted from “The Star Thrower” by Loren Eisely

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